I always hesitate to talk about parenting. I just can't get my ideas across before I have offended the other person. Why is everyone so fixed about parenting? I think because everyone is afraid of doing it wrong so we are sensitive. I was fixed too until I knew I was having twins. Then I prayed that God would teach me about training a child.
I believe in attachment parenting 100 percent until the child can crawl across the room in 30 seconds. After that you have a totally self-focused animal that is too cute for its own good. I watch parents, especially moms pleading with their toddlers to be quiet or put something down or any one of ten thousand things that the child does not want to do. It makes me sad for the parent and for anyone else who is tortured by this child over the next 20 years. Please be aware of the others your children are affecting. You may feel that you are their servant, but other people are not.
I read Ashley Montague's book, "Touching" while I was pregnant with my first. It showed me that babies should be responded to immediately until they can crawl, like all other mammals at birth. Then I taught them to be part of the family and respect others. I would not let them nurse at the dinner table after that age. That was always done at a different time. If they pitched a fit about something, they were put down or in their room until we were finished. "Train up a child in the way he should go..." You just cannot let children torment others. It sets a bad precedent for life. Do not think that I think children are chattel to be seen and not heard. My oldest was very precocious and at 3 and 4 years old could jump into adult conversations very naturally and with good understanding of the topic being discussed, much to the amazement of our friends. I think your most important role is to prepare your children for adulthood. But many parents are training their children for a prison of pleasure, by letting them think that is the goal of life.
I did not believe in any "spanking" or even saying no to them when I had only two children. I still do not believe in reactive punishment, except in very rare situations. And I still think it is lazy to use the word no many times. What I do believe in is child training. It is quite easy to train a 9-12 month old to obey your voice. You do not have to beat them. They want to please you at this age. You do not have to be harsh when you discipline them for ignoring you when you speak. The lightest tap to get their attention is usually all the correction they need if you have been attachment parenting and you are one with them.
Rather than try to describe what I have done, I recommend that you ask God to teach you about training your child so that she is respectful of others and places more importance on your words when you speak to her than the curious item before her. Train up a child in the he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it. When I look at different adults' behavior, I have to wonder how they were raised. Each child is an individual and deserves individualized treatment.
We will not know the result of our parenting until the child is 30 or 40 years old. I am starting to see it now. Will anyone parent perfectly, no. But if you submit to God's chastening of you as you continue to grow in the Lord Jesus Christ, you will do better every day.
This was posted on FB by my friend Katie. Read and learn.
BOSTON – Police and National Guard units seeking to confiscate a cache of recently banned assault weapons were ambushed Sunday by elements of a para-military right wing extremist faction.
Military and law enforcement sources estimate that 72 were killed and more than 200 injured before government forces were compelled to withdraw.
Speaking after the clash, Massachusetts Governor Thomas Gage declared that the extremist militia faction has citizens who have links to the radical right wing tax protest movement. Gage blamed the militia for recent incidents of vandalism directed against internal revenue offices.
The governor who described the group’s organizers as “terrorists,” issued an executive order authorizing the summary arrest of any individual who has interfered with the government's efforts to secure law and order. The law enforcement team augmented by elements of the National Guard, were sent to raid a militia arsenal after widespread refusal of right wing extremists to turn over recently outlawed assault weapons.
This decision followed a meeting in early July between government and law enforcement which authorized the confiscation of the illegal arms, known as the weapons of choice among criminals and militias.
One government official, speaking on condition of anonymity, pointed out “that none of these people would have been killed had right wing extremist obeyed the law and turned over the weapons voluntarily.” Police and government forces initially succeeded in confiscating a large supply of outlawed weapons and ammunition. However, troops attempting to seize arms and ammunition in Lexington met with resistance from heavily armed militia extremist who had been tipped off regarding the government’s plans.
During a tense stand-off in Lexington‘s town park, National Guard Colonel Francis Smith, commander of the government operation, ordered the armed group to surrender and return to their homes. The impasse was broken by a single shot, which was reportedly fired by one of the right wing extremist.
Eight civilians were killed in the ensuing exchange.
Ironically, the local citizens blamed the government forces rather than the extremists for the civilian deaths. Before order could be restored, heavily armed militia groups from surrounding areas had descended upon the police and guard units. Colonel Smith finding his forces over matched by militia mobs, ordered a retreat. Governor Gage has called upon citizens to support the state/national joint task force in its effort to restore law and order.
The governor has also demanded the surrender of those responsible for planning and leading the attack against the government. Samuel Adams, Paul Revere, and John Hancock, who have been identified as “ringleaders” of the extremist militia faction remain at large.
(The American Revolution begins, as reported by Associated Press) (Compiled by Charles Norton and New American Magazine.)
This was posted on FB by Radiantly Beautiful with Crystal Weight Loss Support Group I can't wait to try this! HOMEMADE MOSQUITO TRAP: Items needed: 1 cup of water 1/4 cup of brown sugar 1 gram of yeast 1 2-liter bottle
HOW: 1. Cut the plastic bottle in half. 2. Mix brown sugar with hot water. Let cool. When cold, pour in the bottom half of the bottle. 3. Add the yeast. No need to mix. It creates carbon dioxide, which attracts mosquitoes. 4. Place the funnel part, upside down, into the other half of the bottle, taping them together if desired. 5. Wrap the bottle with something black, leaving the top uncovered, and place it outside in an area away from your normal gathering area. (Mosquitoes are also drawn to the color black.)
Change the solution every 2 weeks for continuous control.
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This is a great idea I am working on implementing. I am placing all our lawn clippings and pine needles where the garden will be. As soon as I can I will ask the electric company or a tree service to bring me wood chips. Please watch the videos below. It will change your thinking on gardening.
The man below has implemented the Back To Eden Gardening Method. He is convinced that it works.
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